Young relationships have a lot to learn about forgiveness and unconditional love. The greatest gift any child could give a parent is when they call and say, “I get it, I understand what unconditional love is.”
So let’s talk about the truth, forgiveness and saying I’m sorry.
John 8:32 Then you will know the truth and the truth shall set you free.
The truth can set us free. I use this statement to discuss the importance of forgiveness. Asking for forgiveness and forgiving.
Recently I ran into my husband with a laundry cart at the Laundromat. First words out of my mouth was, “I’m sorry.” this statement was the nudge I needed to write about forgiveness and how this relates to unconditional love.
No matter the situation when you say I’m sorry you are asking for forgiveness. I have found recently I have been saying these words a lot because even though my words are unintentional I do not like to cause pain to a person. If I see someone hurting, I want to help by wishing I could absorb their pain. So I say I’m sorry you feel this way is there anything I can do to help ease the pain. This is a way of showing someone empathy and compassion.
I have also found that when you show empathy, a person is more likely to trust you and will allow you to take a sneak peak into their heart. Unconditional love, allowing the person to have ownership of their feelings which leads to the beginning of healing.
In 2006 I wrote, “Often times this is how forgiveness works, having the power to forgive without being asked is a sign of unconditional love for others.”
Have you ever had to forgive someone with out them asking for forgiveness? For me this was the hardest thing to do in my life. I had a person in my life who was very abusive to me and one day with the help of my loving congregation I learned who to set myself free and I ended up saying out loud I forgive you. There was a long list of people I had to forgive, those who disappointed me and not being there for me when they should have been. The ones who assumed they knew what I was going through and called me horrible names. I learned my normal was not normal at all, I was living the life of being a victim. one day my Pastor’s wife pointed out to me I was living my life as a victim and when was I going to allow God to take over the healing and move forward.
The first step was to forgive my abusers. Once I did this; I felt free for the 1st time. I would make strives to serve the Lord and teach others the importance of forgiving.
Ephesians 4:32 Be Kind and compassionate to one another forgive each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Jesus is our example of mercy and unconditional love as our relationship with Jesus grows we want to become more like him.
- Ask for forgiveness to be forgiven will allow us to unload those burdens and realizing we were wrong.
- To give forgiveness is to be set free and to move forward with Christ.
I building a relationship with Christ we want to be more Christ like. We become a better person by looking in the mirror to make the changes.
Remember what God did for us.
John 3:16 “for God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal love”
This example of God’s love demonstrates unconditional love and forgiveness.
We believe that there are sins that are so horrible and we will never find the grace of God’s love however in Psalms 103:12 As far from the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.
Remember to Say I’m sorry and forgive just as the Lord would want us to do with a spirit of unconditional love.